Say goodbye to the limiting beliefs that hold you back. It's time to meet your inner leader.

Throughout my career, I remember many moments of struggling with new responsibilities that I was given but didn't feel ready for.

I remember sitting in a product meeting, surrounded by senior leaders — my body tense and my chest tight. I was the de facto lead of a particular project, simply because I had worked on it the longest. They were discussing related areas, and I wanted to say something, but my thoughts held me back.

What can I say so that people think I'm smart?
That's probably too obvious.
Oh shoot, he just beat me to the thing I wanted to say.

Thirty minutes later, I felt drained and exhausted from all the anxious second-guessing in my head. I was still replaying all the times something was on the tip of my tongue, and I was disappointed at myself for not speaking up.

A few weeks later, confirming all the fears swirling in my head — my manager shared with me in my performance review the feedback that I should speak up more and take more initiative.

I felt so embarrassed, out of place, like I didn't belong.

I also remember the first time I was the tech lead for a project. I felt unsure about a technical design decision, but instead of getting myself unstuck, I was paralyzed by thoughts like:

I shouldn't ask for help until I've tried hard enough.
I should already know this. They'll wonder why I don't know the answer.
They're too busy and would be annoyed if I ask for help.

There were so many inner voices, always chattering inside my head.

How did everyone else do it?

The leaders I admired seemed to do it all so effortlessly — so why was it so hard for me?

I continued to struggle — spending time second-guessing myself in countless meetings, wondering if I was making the right technical decisions for the team, and often just putting my head down and working long hours doing something, anything, even if I knew it wasn't the best use of my time.

Years later, I realized that this loneliness and feeling of being ill-equipped or underprepared to lead is widespread in the tech industry. Companies grow quickly, and the pressure to ship the next thing can be overwhelming.

I hadn't been alone — people just don't talk about it.

It took me even more years of self-work, working with a coach, and coaching and training hundreds of engineers and people in tech, to understand something: there are actually very effective tools to identify and manage the beliefs and voices that hold you back, so that you can step more fully into the leader you want to be.

When I started to use these tools, a shift happened.

Hard things became easier.

I started to own my self-authority and presence in the room — even with people who intimidated me.

I started directly leaning into giving feedback — knowing that I could handle myself.

I started asking for help without self-judgment — and I started accomplishing so much more.

I started becoming a leader I was proud of being and that felt authentically me — and I started to see that my leadership style might look different than those around me.

Now I've partnered with leadership coach Elenna Mossoff to teach you the systems and tools on how you can do the same.

Meet your inner leader in this one-day immersive leadership experience.

Together, we've coached and helped hundreds of people — engineers, tech leads, product managers, directors, and more — transform their mindsets.

Here's what we've learned.

Many of us hold strong preconceptions of what leadership looks like.

We look at people on stage delivering keynotes or TED talks, or we look at C-level executives of successful companies. And we assume that being a leader means speaking confidently in front of large crowds, knowing all the answers, creating long-term visions for the future, and charismatically rallying people to follow us.

Or perhaps the leader you aspire to be is someone you work with or used to work with — they always knew exactly what to say. They always navigated challenging situations with composure and competence. They always knew how to navigate supporting people to achieve their goals and also steering them to achieve company goals.

It's easy to think that we're not like them and that therefore we're not leaders.

But here's the truth:

Everyone can access an inner leader, with their own unique leadership style.

Leadership is, simply, being someone who people want to follow.

The skills required to be an on-stage, charismatic leader are indeed valuable leadership qualities, but there are so many other qualities that are less visible from afar. One person's leadership superpower may be rallying a team around a big goal, whereas another person's superpower may be a grounded confidence and willingness to share vulnerably that immediately builds trust with everyone around them.

There are countless ways in which you might lead most effectively, that can look different from those around you — and when we limit ourselves to one or two models of successful leadership, we don't recognize our own leadership strengths.

Once we expand our idea of what leadership looks like, one thing becomes clear:

Your inner leader wants to shine.

That's why you get that tightness in your chest when something doesn't sit right with you.

That's why it weighs heavily on you when you're holding back feedback that you know someone really needs to hear.

That's why what-if thoughts keep flooding your mind, replaying situations — because deep down, you know that you're capable of so much more.

When you successfully have a difficult conversation after rehearsing it, and relief and pride flood your body — that's your inner leader showing up. Or when you speak up instead of sit back when a meeting derails from its agenda. Or when you ask a co-worker for help even when you're afraid you might be judged.

Those are all times when your inner leader is having a moment in the spotlight.

You can have more of these moments.

You may know intellectually what you need to do more of to be an effective leader. You may have read books, listened to podcasts, or watched TED talks — they're inspiring, but it feels hard to put the advice into practice.

You might try to “fake it until you make it,” but it's tiring to do something that feels fake, while also worrying about seeming inauthentic or being exposed for a fraud.

You might talk to your manager or a mentor for advice on problems you face. Sometimes, it's helpful. But other times, nothing comes out of it, and you don't know what to do next.

The reason why jumping to these solutions can often be hit-or-miss is because we haven't yet addressed the underlying obstacle: our limiting beliefs.

As human beings, we've all accumulated assumptions and beliefs we make up about ourselves and the world — built up through childhood, our schooling, and previous work experiences. Some of these beliefs serve us, but many don't — and we still hold onto them out of habit.

Beliefs like:

I don't have what it takes.
I am not capable. Everything needs to be perfect.
I'm not good enough.
If I don't try, I won't fail.
I'm not ready to be a leader.

These beliefs can be valuable in some ways earlier in our lives and careers — spurring us to try harder, to strive for perfection, to keep our head down and put in the hard work. But after a certain point, we outgrow them. They become limiting instead of protecting. They act like shrink-wrap, preserving the status quo, when we want more.

What if you could consciously shed your limiting beliefs?

What if you could replace them with more empowering ones — ones that actually unveil and align with your inner leader?

You'd be able to speak up for the things that others are afraid to say, to stand with integrity for what you believe is right, and to speak the truth even when it might be uncomfortable.

You'd be able to overcome your fear of asking for help, to give direct and honest feedback to the people around you, and to step into the tension of hard conversations.

You'd be able to discover what's important to the people around you, to explicitly design what's expected, and to raise the bar of teamwork and quality.

This process of discovering your inner leader takes courage, but with the right tools and guidance, everyone can do it. And, in fact, if you want to find your own leadership style and create the impact and influence you want — the journey starts here.

During this 1-day immersive, leadership experience, you'll courageously identify the limiting beliefs and the impact they have over your life and work. You'll discover and ignite your own inner leader that leverages your own leadership style. And you'll amplify the empowering beliefs that you want to play a bigger role in your life and move toward what you most want.

Here are just a few things you'll learn and take away from the experience:

• Leave with clarity about your own inner leader — one that gives you the strength and courage to shine in difficult situations.
• A tool and framework for identifying the limiting beliefs that hold you back — and replacing them with empowering mindsets that propel you forward.
• How to find the biggest leverage point for most effectively reshaping your behaviors — so that you can change one thing and have a powerful, cascading effect on multiple arenas of your work and life.
• How to map out the impact of a belief on your system of behaviors — so that you understand the costs and benefits of a given belief.
• Increased ability to stay calm and grounded in the face of failure, challenges, success, uncertainty, fear, or other intense emotions.
• Powerful techniques to train your brain on how you process and experience external events — so that you feel empowered to react and respond to the world in the way that you want.
• Increased confidence at critical moments where important things are at stake and your emotional courage and leadership are required.
• Increased effectiveness in talking about hard things that open the door for conversations that grow your leadership.
• Get clarity through coaching conversations on the voices and problems specific and personal to you.
• Understand your inner workings — including how different inputs and events in the environment get filtered through the lenses you wear and influence your behaviors.
• A powerful process to reframe what you feel insecure about into stepping stones toward growing toward the leader you want to become.
• Ability to move past the waiting game — the one you play when you don't have enough information, experience, and feel like you're not ready — and move toward action.
• Reduce all that wasted energy spent on self-judgment — and channel it toward actions that are productive and useful in your leadership.
• Tools you can use with your team to help them overcome their own limiting beliefs.
• A supportive community of people who share in your struggles and your vulnerability — and a big sense of relief that you're not alone.
• And so much more.